BROKEN INSANITY

  What is Emotional Intelligence? Understanding Emotions Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and express emotions in a healthy and constructive way. It involves recognizing your own feelings and those of others, and using this knowledge to build strong relationships and achieve your goals. Beyond IQ While IQ (intelligence quotient) measures cognitive abilities, EQ emphasizes the importance of emotional skills. People with high EQ are often more successful in personal and professional life because they can navigate complex social situations effectively. 

Self-sabotage and shame often show up as hidden roadblocks, silently affecting progress, relationships, and self-esteem. These patterns usually stem from deeper wounds—past trauma, internalized criticism, or the fear of not being good enough. Recognizing the roots of these behaviors is the first step toward change. With awareness, it becomes possible to interrupt harmful cycles, shift negative self-talk, and begin practicing habits that support confidence, emotional resilience, and forward momentum. Learning how to replace shame with self-compassion and self-doubt with grounded positivity creates space for real, lasting growth. Understanding Self-Sabotage Self-sabotage is a complex psychological phenomenon that can significantly hinder personal growth and success. It manifests as thoughts and behaviors that prevent us from achieving our goals, often rooted in deep-seated fears, insecurities, and negative self-perceptions. Common forms of self-sabotage include procrastination, perfecti...

 

Processing family grief means navigating the shared and individual emotional responses that arise when a family experiences a significant loss—like the death of a loved one, estrangement, or even collective trauma. It’s not just about mourning; it’s about how each person grieves in their own way while trying to stay connected as a unit. Here’s how it tends to unfold: 🧭 Navigating Different Grief Styles Some family members may cry openly, while others go silent or focus on logistics. There’s no “right” way to grieve—respecting each person’s pace and style is key. 💬 Communication & Conflict Grief can stir up old tensions or misunderstandings. Making space for honest, compassionate dialogue helps prevent isolation or resentment. 🧠 Meaning-Making Together Families often try to make sense of the loss together—through stories, rituals, or shared memories. This co-construction of meaning can deepen bonds and help each person feel seen. 🫂 Emotional Co-Regulation When o...

Processing rejection means actively working through the emotional impact of being turned away, excluded, or dismissed, whether by a person, group, opportunity, or system. It’s not just about understanding what happened but about tending to how it made you feel and what beliefs it may have stirred up. Here’s what it can involve: 🧠 Emotional Awareness Naming the emotions: hurt, anger, shame, confusion, even numbness. Noticing where those feelings show up in your body or behavior. 🪞 Self-Reflection Asking: “What story am I telling myself about this rejection?” Exploring whether that story is rooted in past experiences or internalized beliefs. 🔄 Reframing Recognizing that rejection often says more about the other person or situation than about your worth. Seeing it as redirection rather than failure, an opening for something more aligned. 🛠️ Integration Using journaling, art, or movement to express and release what’s been stirred up. Identifying what boundaries, values, or ne...

  “Poisonous Pedagogy” refers to deeply entrenched, often well-intentioned child-rearing approaches that cause harm while masquerading as discipline, structure, or tradition. 🧠 Core Meaning Poisonous Pedagogy is a term coined to describe: Parenting and educational methods rooted in control, shame, silence, and emotional suppression. A rigid family system where authority is never questioned, vulnerability is discouraged, and the child’s individual needs are often invalidated. A legacy of emotional or psychological manipulation passed from one generation to the next. Frank and Tina Davis , whose polished, rule-bound family identity masked growing emotional numbness and unresolved resentments. Sandy Dorset’s family , where authoritarianism and unprocessed trauma contributed to cycles of addiction and abuse, even though societal norms might have seen the parenting as "firm" or "disciplined." These stories reveal how toxic dynamics, often mistaken for loving conc...

  🗣️ 1. The “No” Practice Circle Goal: Practice saying “no” without guilt Setup: Partner or small group Instructions: One person makes a request (e.g., “Can you work late tonight?”). The responder practices saying “no” assertively using a calm tone and body language. Rotate roles and offer feedback on clarity and emotional tone.

  You're trying to reach a better place (peace, healing, progress). You’re struggling because you’re carrying emotional baggage, resentment, fear, control issues, self-pity, etc. Supportive people are cheering you on, but until you let go of what’s weighing you down , you can’t make it. The moment you stop trying to fix everything with brute force and drop the emotional load , everything gets easier. Once you're free, you don’t just relax, you help the next person who's drowning in their own baggage . 🧠 The Insight Growth doesn’t happen all at once. We don’t just “decide to change” and stay changed. Old habits, trauma responses, and personality traits creep back in, even after we thought we were “past that.” Self-awareness is key: If you’re stuck, flat, numb, or relapsing into old patterns, it’s probably not about others, it’s about your own resistance to change . 💣 Why W...

  ✨ A Trauma-Informed Guide to Building Social and Emotional Skills   🎯 INTRODUCTION: What This Is and Why It Matters Recovery isn’t just about avoiding relapses; it’s about rebuilding yourself from the inside out. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) helps you: Feel without falling apart Connect without losing yourself Respond without regret This guide is your personal toolbox for healing; built for those navigating trauma, addiction, and the path to emotional strength.     🔑 CORE TRUTH Emotional intelligence is not something you’re born with. It’s something you build. Every time you: Pause instead of reacting Own your emotions instead of blaming Ask instead of assuming Speak with honesty instead of hiding You grow stronger. 🛠️ KEY SKILLS FOR RECOVERY 🧭 1. Self-Awareness: Recognizing What You Feel v   You can’t heal what you won’t name. v   Tools : Journaling, daily check-ins, mindf...

  🧱 1. The Original Poster (OP): Raw, Real, and Unheard OP isn’t asking for tips. He’s laying down a eulogy in real time for the parts of himself that have been ignored, used up, and shamed. He’s not saying, “help me”, he’s saying “I tried. No one did.” This isn’t a cry for help. It’s a cry about help, how it's performative, conditional, or just... missing. What he really needs? Someone to say “You're right,   it’s f*cked, and you’re not weak for saying so.” Not a motivational poster. Not a TED Talk. Just truth and presence. 🪞 2. Most Replies: Performative Empathy, Defensive Logic, and Fix-Mode Buzzkillmate : Tries to strike balance and wisdom but misses the grief entirely. He philosophizes instead of empathizing. Feels like he’s talking at OP, not with him. Just_onistea : Says “Do men not care about men’s mental health?”, like it’s some riddle. Feels dismissive AF. This is what happens when ...