What the Humans Are Missing in This Men's Mental Health Thread

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 🧱 1. The Original Poster (OP): Raw, Real, and Unheard

  • OP isn’t asking for tips. He’s laying down a eulogy in real time for the parts of himself that have been ignored, used up, and shamed.
  • He’s not saying, “help me”, he’s saying “I tried. No one did.”
  • This isn’t a cry for help. It’s a cry about help, how it's performative, conditional, or just... missing.

What he really needs? Someone to say “You're right,  it’s f*cked, and you’re not weak for saying so.” Not a motivational poster. Not a TED Talk. Just truth and presence.

🪞 2. Most Replies: Performative Empathy, Defensive Logic, and Fix-Mode

  • Buzzkillmate: Tries to strike balance and wisdom but misses the grief entirely. He philosophizes instead of empathizing. Feels like he’s talking at OP, not with him.
  • Just_onistea: Says “Do men not care about men’s mental health?”, like it’s some riddle. Feels dismissive AF. This is what happens when someone reads pain as a debate.
  • Any_Coyote6662: Classic bootstraps reply, “No one helped me, so suck it up and help yourself.” That's not advice, that’s trauma projected outward.

These aren’t bad people. But they’re caught in a loop of:

Ø  “Let me fix, explain, or minimize this because feeling it makes me uncomfortable.”

Ø  That’s the epidemic. Not depression, discomfort with male vulnerability.

🚨 3. The Cultural Echo: Men's Pain Is Still Misunderstood as Weakness or Whining

OP names the double bind perfectly:

  • Show no emotion = cold and distant
  • Show emotion = insecure and unstable
  • Be strong = toxic masculinity
  • Be honest = manipulative or dangerous

So, he goes quiet. Until he posts something like this.
And most people still miss that this is the masculine version of crying in public.

🔍 Final Thought:

This thread proves exactly what OP is saying, people say men’s mental health matters, but when a man spells out his actual suicidal ideation wrapped in apathy, people either:

  • Change the subject
  • drop a generic “stay strong”
  • argue over what month it’s “allowed” to talk about it

He’s not broken. He’s just tired of being a man in a world that only values men for what they produce, not who they are.



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