BROKEN INSANITY

 Understanding Family Dysfunction: A Pervasive and Resilient Disease Family dysfunction is not merely a series of isolated incidents or temporary challenges. Rather, it is a deep-seated, persistent condition that permeates every aspect of family life. The term "disease" is apt in describing family dysfunction because it captures the systemic nature of the problem and its tendency to spread and worsen over time if left unaddressed. The pervasive nature of family dysfunction means that it affects all members of the household, often in ways that are not immediately apparent. It colors daily interactions, shapes communication patterns, and influences how family members relate to one another and the outside world. This pervasiveness is what makes the effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family so enduring, often persisting long into adulthood. The resilience of family dysfunction refers to its ability to withstand attempts at change or intervention. Dysfunctional patterns of b...

  What is Emotional Intelligence? Understanding Emotions Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and express emotions in a healthy and constructive way. It involves recognizing your own feelings and those of others, and using this knowledge to build strong relationships and achieve your goals. Beyond IQ While IQ (intelligence quotient) measures cognitive abilities, EQ emphasizes the importance of emotional skills. People with high EQ are often more successful in personal and professional life because they can navigate complex social situations effectively. 

Self-sabotage and shame often show up as hidden roadblocks, silently affecting progress, relationships, and self-esteem. These patterns usually stem from deeper wounds—past trauma, internalized criticism, or the fear of not being good enough. Recognizing the roots of these behaviors is the first step toward change. With awareness, it becomes possible to interrupt harmful cycles, shift negative self-talk, and begin practicing habits that support confidence, emotional resilience, and forward momentum. Learning how to replace shame with self-compassion and self-doubt with grounded positivity creates space for real, lasting growth. Understanding Self-Sabotage Self-sabotage is a complex psychological phenomenon that can significantly hinder personal growth and success. It manifests as thoughts and behaviors that prevent us from achieving our goals, often rooted in deep-seated fears, insecurities, and negative self-perceptions. Common forms of self-sabotage include procrastination, perfecti...

🔸 Original Idea: Carl Jung warned that the greatest tragedy isn’t dying, it’s never truly living . He called it “the unlived life”: when you abandon your truth, bury your real self, and settle into autopilot. Not out of laziness, but out of fear, survival, people-pleasing, or trying to be who others wanted you to be. 🧠 Modern Breakdown: 🚨 What is the "unlived life"? It’s not about doing nothing . It’s about living a life that isn’t yours . You’re out here checking boxes, keeping up appearances, doing what’s expected, but your soul never gets a say. You feel tired, anxious, disconnected… and deep down, something feels off. You don’t know what’s missing, but you know something is . 🧠 How it starts: You were told to be realistic . You were told your emotions were “too much.” You got praise for being “good,” “useful,” “put together”, so you kept playing the role. Over time, your real self-got buried under roles, expectations, trauma responses, a...

🔥 Overview Not everyone who looks “fine” is actually living. Some people walk through life completely disconnected, from themselves, from meaning, from anything real. They smile, nod, and show up, but when you look into their eyes, there’s nothing there. This lesson explores what that emptiness means, how to recognize it, and why it matters in recovery and self-awareness. 🧠 The Truth Jung Warned Us About Carl Jung believed not everyone develops a soul. Not because they’re broken, but because they never chose to grow it. Everyone has a persona ,  a social mask we wear to get through the day. It’s your work face, your “I’m fine” voice, your people-pleasing version. It’s not wrong. But when that persona becomes all someone is, there’s nothing behind it. Some people are hollow, not evil, just disconnected . They never did the inner work. Never sat in their silence. Never faced their shadows. So, what you see is a carefully crafted shell: polished, pleasant, and completely vacant. ...

  I was listening to I'll Leave A Light On For You by Papa Roach and Carrie Underwood, and my mind started spiraling. Suicide. Addiction. Overdoses. Mental disorders. Someone accidentally overdosing, not because they wanted to die, but because they just wanted to escape the pain for a little while. Then, I thought about my son coming back into my life after enough time had passed for me to finally see,  not just him, but myself. I thought about the two-year anniversary of losing the man I was crazy about, shaming myself the entire time for not understanding sooner how deeply generational trauma had controlled my entire life. Then vs. now. The addict, the crazy, the clueless, the unlovable-but-desperately-wanting-to-be-loved person I was. A hypocrite, judgmental even as an addict, thinking my sins were somehow different than someone else’s. And that got me thinking… When was the last time you looked at someone with an addiction and asked, "Hey, are you okay?" When was...